One of the greatest challenges we face in our quest for love is selecting someone who will be there when the poo hits the fan.
I think you all know what I mean. When times are great, it’s easy for us to find a partner we are happy with and settle in to enjoy life. But it’s when the times get tough that peoples real personalities come grinding through.
Yes, I found the right one, they are fun, happy, caring, easy to get a long with… and then, the step kids start acting up, or the ex starts showing up or calling or … or suddenly something happens that requires money and you don’t have enough, or you simply say something really stupid and an argument blows up in your face and there is screaming or hollering or they simply walk out.
How will you know if you have a person who will be there even in the tough times?
In my book, The Twenty, I talk about how we need to look for the warning signs. And I don’t just mean look, I mean, investigate. Yes, dig deep into YOURSELF to find out the answers.
Wait, Steve, you said dig into myself? Yes… because if you look at your failed relationships objectively you will almost always be able to see red flags/warning signs that this was not the perfect relationship you kept hoping it would be.
I can’t tell you how many people I have helped over the years who were distraught and lost and hurt and so much more because their relationship ended. But as we talked, as I injected my system into their lives we fond that almost to a person, they had seen warning signs and chose to ignore them.
You do know they call it dating for a reason, right? That reason is you are supposed to be LOOKING for the warning signs not ignoring them.
And as you find these red flags you need to act upon them. Ok, yes, you want to be loved. Yes you want to be in a relationship. Yes, it’s one of the most important things you want in life. But now, let’s put aside all of the Man of my dreams, Woman of my fantasy and get hit in the face with reality.
And that is, when you start a relationship it’s called dating (when you are supposed to weed out the ones that won’t work in the long run). When you are in a relationship is when you start to get deeper feelings than just comfort and sex. This is when you really need to dig in and look at this person like your life depends upon it. It does! Or at least your future does. And that’s when you really dig into the ‘oh, it’s no big deal’ flags. It’s when you delve into the ‘things that irritate you’ feelings. It’s when you need to solve all of these in order to get to the ‘I will love you forever’ reality that comes with more than the emotional ‘I love you’ stage of your relationship.
I teach relationships. It’s what I do and if you really want to find the love of your life then follow my proven method of finding someone who will be worthy of your love. You can find love by learning about love and not just stumbling into another relationship and hope it lasts.
Come and learn about love with my proven system, The Learn to Love School of Relationships.
I am Steve Sapato and I can teach you how to find the love you have dreamt about.